26 – Doing All the Healing Work But Still Not Happy? Reclaim Joy as a Healer
Doing All the Healing Work But Still Not Happy? Reclaim Joy as a Healer
If you’ve ever felt like you’ve done everything—the courses, the inner child work, the shadow dives—but still feel hollow, this episode is for you. You’re not broken. And you don’t need fixing. In fact, the healing itself might have become another place you feel not-enough. This is your permission slip to stop, breathe, and rediscover joy—not as a reward for hard work, but as your birthright.
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Today’s Block
Doing all the inner work… but still not feeling happy.
Listen If…
🔹 You feel stuck in a cycle of never-ending self-healing
🔹 You secretly wonder if joy is allowed
🔹 Pleasure feels risky or undeserved
Three Takeaways
1️⃣ Why “fixing yourself” might be keeping you stuck
2️⃣ How shame drives endless healing loops
3️⃣ Simple ways to rebuild trust with joy and sensual pleasure
Today’s Key Action
Let yourself savor one small moment of pleasure—and notice what feelings arise underneath.
Going Deeper
Why You Still Feel Empty After Years of Healing
You’ve bought the books. Taken the courses. You know your chakras, your inner child, your shadow, and your attachment style. And still… something feels hollow.
You’re not alone. Many sensitive, spiritual women find themselves doing all the healing work—and wondering why it still doesn’t feel good.
Let’s talk about the hidden shame spiral inside the self-help path.
The Trap of Constant Self-Fixing
Many of us begin our healing journey after a rupture—a moment of deep shame, trauma, or self-betrayal. We don’t just want to feel better. We want to redeem ourselves. Prove we’re not broken.
That urgency becomes a motor. We sign up for the next thing. Read another book. Peel back another layer. And often, we don’t realize that underneath all this effort is the belief:
“There is something wrong with me.”
Pleasure as a Portal (Not a Distraction)
For many of us, pleasure feels dangerous. If we let ourselves feel good, we fear we’ll lose control. That we’ll become lazy, indulgent, or “fall off the path.”
But that fear often points to a deep deprivation. We are starved for safety, softness, and permission to enjoy being alive.
Pleasure isn’t a distraction from healing. It’s a nervous system reset. It grows our capacity to receive. And it helps us stop sabotaging the good things we’re calling in.
Savoring is a Skill (And a Key to Healing)
If joy feels unfamiliar, it’s not because you’re doing something wrong—it’s because your system isn’t used to holding it.
That’s why slowing down to savor is revolutionary.
Start small:
– Touch your skin with kindness.
– Let one square of chocolate melt on your tongue.
– Feel the breeze on your walk home.
And then pause.
Notice what’s underneath. Fatigue? Guilt? Sadness?
Breathe with it. Let it be there. Let it move through.
You Don’t Need to Earn Love
So many of us learned: love must be earned. Through achievement. Through sacrifice. Through healing.
But what if it’s already yours?
You don’t have to finish your healing before you get to feel good.
You don’t have to fix your whole past to enjoy your present.
Joy, pleasure, and ease aren’t luxuries. They are anchors.
They remind your system that you’re safe now. That you belong here. That you get to feel good.
Not someday. But now.
Where we go this episode
00:00 The Burden of Modern Demands
03:04 Rewiring for Support
06:03 The Power of Grounding and Support
08:54 Releasing Emotional Burdens
12:06 The Role of Healers and Energy
15:04 Teaching Reiki and Healing Archetypes
18:04 Invitation to Healing Journey
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What resonated most from today’s episode?
1. You don’t need to earn love.
2. Healing driven by shame is still shame.
3. Pleasure doesn’t make you weak—it makes you whole.
4. Savoring is an act of nervous system rebellion.
5. You don’t have to wait to feel good.
The time to do it all on our own is over.
This journey isn’t meant to be walked alone.
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