27 – How to Feel Supported Without Earning It (A Reiki Perspective for Healers)
How to Feel Supported Without Earning It (A Reiki Perspective for Healers)
If you’ve ever felt like support has to be earned—through overgiving, self-sacrifice, or endless effort—this episode is for you. As a healer, your nervous system wasn’t meant to carry everyone else’s energy. What if the earth could hold it for you? What if you didn’t need to be perfect to be supported? In this episode, Inge offers a grounded, body-based invitation to receive—starting from the soles of your feet.
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Today’s Block
Feeling like you must earn support before receiving it.
Listen If…
🔹 You collapse into exhaustion after giving too much.
🔹 You’ve been told being strong means holding it all.
🔹 You long for permission to rest and be held.
Three Takeaways
1️⃣ Gravity is constant, unconditional support.
2️⃣ The earth can compost energy—you don’t need to hold it.
3️⃣ Reiki begins with receiving, not doing.
Today’s Key Action
Relax your body—especially your pelvic floor—and imagine the earth receiving everything you no longer want to carry.
Going Deeper
How to Feel Supported Without Earning It (A Reiki Perspective for Healers)
Why It’s So Hard to Feel Supported
Many intuitive, service-oriented women carry a deep subconscious belief: support must be earned. We offer help before it’s asked for. We overextend. We ignore our own needs until we collapse. This isn’t just burnout—it’s an inherited nervous system pattern that equates self-worth with usefulness.
Even when learning Reiki, a healing modality centered on receiving universal energy, we may struggle. We want to do it right. We question our intuition. Our body may tense instead of open. Because somewhere along the line, we learned: to receive, you must first give.
The Earth is Always Supporting You
Here’s the radical truth that changes everything: you are already being supported. Gravity is proof. The earth doesn’t ask you to be perfect before she holds you. She doesn’t check your to-do list before offering rest.
When you begin to practice Reiki—or any energy work—it can be deeply healing to first attune to this: the earth beneath you is steady, holding, compassionate. You don’t need to convince it you’re worthy. You can give your weight over and know it’s received.
This is a profound place to begin. Not with effort. Not with fixing. But with allowing.
The Role of the Pelvic Floor in Receiving
Inge beautifully shared how many healers (herself included) hold tension in the pelvic floor—a subtle clenching that mirrors the emotional “bracing” we’ve done for years. Releasing that physical contraction can open a floodgate of sensation and emotion.
It may feel scary at first. That’s okay. We practice slowly. Gently. With love.
Reiki teaches that we channel energy from the earth up through the feet, blending in the heart, and out through the hands. But we cannot channel what we do not allow. Letting that energy rise begins by letting the body soften.
You’re Not Supposed to Hold It All
A healer who lasts in this work—who doesn’t burn out, shut down, or disappear—is one who knows how to release. Not everything is yours to carry.
The grief, confusion, and chaos we witness in our clients is not meant to lodge itself in our tissues. The earth can transmute it. Like compost. Like breath. Like sacred ground.
You don’t need to fix it. You don’t even need to fully understand it. You just need to practice—again and again—the art of being held.
Where we go this episode
00:00 The Burden of Modern Demands
03:04 Rewiring for Support
06:03 The Power of Grounding and Support
08:54 Releasing Emotional Burdens
12:06 The Role of Healers and Energy
15:04 Teaching Reiki and Healing Archetypes
18:04 Invitation to Healing Journey
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What resonated most from today’s episode?
1. You don’t have to earn support.
2. Your pelvic floor has been bracing for years.
3. Gravity doesn’t ask you to be good first.
4. The energy isn’t yours to hold.
5. You are worthy of love simply because you exist.
The time to do it all on our own is over.
This journey isn’t meant to be walked alone.
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