21 – “Why Sensitive Healers Avoid Groups—And Why That Might Be Your Deepest Healing Work”
From Self-Doubt to Confidence – Owning Your Path as a Healer
If you’ve ever longed for deep connection while secretly dreading group dynamics, this episode is for you. Especially as a sensitive or intuitive healer, the need for belonging often clashes with the instinct to protect your energy. But what if your resistance to groups isn’t a flaw… but a sign you haven’t yet been held right? This conversation will crack something open in you.
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Today’s Block
“I want to belong… but not disappear.”
Listen If…
🔹 You’re a healer who avoids group work
🔹 You feel drained or blurry in shared spaces
🔹 You long for community but don’t trust it yet
Three Takeaways
1️⃣ Your group experience is shaped by how the space is led
2️⃣ Dissolving in groups is a coping strategy, not your identity
3️⃣ A well-held circle can become your most powerful medicine
Today’s Key Action
Reflect on your group history. When have you felt seen vs. dissolved? Let your answers guide your next brave step.
Going Deeper
Why Healers Struggle in Groups (and Why That’s the Work)
Many healers carry a hidden paradox: we deeply long for community while instinctively resisting it. The desire to be seen lives side-by-side with the fear of dissolving—especially in poorly held spaces. If this resonates, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken.
Why Sensitive Healers Avoid Groups
For many of us, early group experiences taught us that being ourselves meant risking disapproval, conflict, or even invisibility. In groups without clear, attuned leadership, we learn to shape-shift, blur our edges, and emotionally manage others to survive.
These coping strategies are common among intuitives and empaths. You may find yourself softening your truth, tending to the room’s energy, or fading into the background entirely. But this isn’t your truth—it’s a survival pattern.
The Energetics of Safety in Group Spaces
Safety in group dynamics isn’t about everyone liking you. It’s about the container being held with clarity, attunement, and care. Without this, your system will unconsciously over-function. You’ll either step up to lead (even when it’s not your role), go into performance or perfectionism, or completely withdraw.
A well-led group feels different. It invites your nervous system to settle. It allows your individuality to sharpen. Your gifts land. You speak with clarity. You feel your feet on the earth. And others reflect back the beauty of who you are.
The Healing Power of Being Seen
In the right group, vulnerability becomes your medicine. You cry when it’s your turn to speak, not because you’re broken, but because you’re finally being witnessed. It’s not the Reiki or the technique that heals first—it’s the act of being held in community.
Many of Inge’s clients who originally resisted group formats found that these spaces offered the deepest transformation. Why? Because their healing happened not in isolation, but in being seen, softened, sharpened, and celebrated.
The Invitation: Group Healing That Honors You
If you’ve told yourself “I’m not a group person,” it might be true. But it also might be a protective story. And if your soul is whispering that you’re ready for more—more connection, more expression, more trust—then the right group could be your next step.
Start by reflecting on your group history:
- Who were you in those spaces?
- What did you fear? What did you long for?
- What would it feel like to be in a circle where you don’t have to shrink… or over-function?
There are group spaces that exist for your healing. Where you don’t have to dissolve to belong. Where you can be seen in your full power—and still be safe.
You just haven’t been held like that yet. But that doesn’t mean it’s not possible.
Where we go this episode
00:00 Believing in ourselves as healers
01:30 Inge’s relationship to the word “healer”
01:56 What is a healer?
03:21 What it really means to claim your healer identity
04:51 Claiming Your Identity as a Healer
08:29 What it looks like when natural healers hold back their calling
11:54 If you’re doing it already, why not REALLY do it?
15:08 Recognizing your value as a healer
16:43 All the ways to be a healer in this world
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What resonated most from today’s episode?
1. The feeling of being called to heal but doubting if I’m “qualified.”
2. Realizing I’m already doing healing work, but it’s not landing the way I want.
3. The frustration of holding back my gifts and feeling stuck in almost-healer mode.
4. The idea that healing is a trainable skill, not just something you’re “born with.”
5. The reminder that claiming my healer identity is about commitment, not perfection.
The time to do it all on our own is over.
This journey isn’t meant to be walked alone.
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